#BookReview The Ocean At The End Of The Lane: When An Adult Is Just A Grown-Up Kid

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What impression do you get from the cover?

Yeay! A book for this month! (at the very verge of the month)

It’s so hard for finding reading time recently, so even finished reading the 180 pages short novel (not thick nor dense) feels like an accomplishment >,< #sad

Actually it was my first Neil Gaiman’s book, I’ve never read his work before. I think I heard his name quite a lot, but I didn’t sure what genre he usually write. So I didn’t expect much what the story would tells about.. fiction? mystery? drama? another world? or what? in the first chapters, I just let him surprise me…

But then I really surprised. The book was mix of them all, hahaha.. After read other people’s review, they just call it a “Gaiman’s genre”.

Opened with a middle-aged man (whose name is never mentioned – not even once) revisiting the place where he used to live with his parents and sister when he was seven. Then the place starts to bring back a strange sequence of memories as seen through the eyes of a young boy. So can u imagine? The narrator was the grown-up man, trying to tell haunting events through a kid’s perspective. Interesting.

Personally, besides the what-so-called fantasy part, it reminded me of things that children know and adults no longer understand and remember. We usually see things differently, so does how we do things. I remember when I was a kid, I confused seeing my mother and my sister crying.. I though that “hey, you’re adults.. you supposed to be mature enough to face anything in this world. You’re not me. I’m a kid, and only kids who allowed to whine and cry”. (but I didn’t say it directly to them, anyway). So many thoughts are changing.. but I always find that the way of thinking when we were kids are very exciting. I also can so relate with the boy character, the kid who lived in books more than he lived anywhere else. Even until now, I can say book is my sanctuary, the only place that can make me feel safe. People like us could drowned in the imaginary world, and even always observed surrounding and wondered how if the story that the book tell was really happened? Adults follow path, kids explore. And Im eager to capture all those states.

After all, I think it’s a kind of book that you have to read in one sitting. The creepy yet beautiful setting of Sussex, completed by British English that has specific sense of language, will bring you to your own exploration. And I guess I’ll be looking for another Gaiman’s after this.. Any idea?

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Some of My Biz Field Visits in Adelaide and What We Can Learn From Them (Part I)

Okay. Some of you might have known that I got a fellowship from the Australian government in Flinders University, but probably wonder what exactly it is and how the program runs. Well… actually it all depends on its subject. And since my subjects are about business and social studies which are based in a university, so that the learning delivered through the combination of variety of guest lectures, intensive trainings, and field visits, academical and practical knowledge abridge, in order to have strong fundamental theoritically, yet we can implement them in effective ways.

Lecturing, training, field visit. Which one is my favorite? Oh yeah, definitely the outside class sessions!! Ehehe… We visited many respectable government offices and enterprises, but because I tend to always bring my business head, I want to share about the business side and parts that I think are interesting for me personally, my business, and my lovely hometown, Bandung =)

Because there are too many, I will divide the summary into several parts. And these are the first ones:

1. Adelaide City Council

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Located in the heart of the city, it’s very close to my apartment, and I always passed the office every time I go to Rundle Mall from Flinders Campus xD From my first weeks in Adelaide, I was amazed with their initiatives. You can find brochures about the City Council Programs in many places, including campuses, city library, etc. They run soo many programs, yet some of which attracted me are:

a. Digital Hub

Not everyone can operate a Macbook. Not everyone can optimize Windows either. Not everyone even knows how to use the e-library. Digital skill is one of the 21st century “must have” skills (I think). But even in Australia, there are still many people who do not acknowledged yet about how to use those electronics (and of course, especially aged people). For the younger generation, the level may be different. More advanced, perhaps. (Hey, look at me.. sometimes I’m also still face trouble with the Mac OS, zzz :|)

The point is… along the technology improvement, our people are also always need to be updated.. rite? And how the Adelaide Digital Hub do that?

They provide a free training for specified subjects, even one-on-one training with a trainer. And how did they get the trainers? They hire and open for volunteers (there are benefits for those who applied). Australian citizenship is not compulsory. Anyone can get involved, anyone can learn together. And they even eager to know what kind of training that we currently need. Remember… investing in people is investing in long-term business, too.

Bandung? I’m sure we can do this!

b. Adelaide Business Start-Up Grants

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meeting with some stakeholders in Tonsley

You know, I can feel that the City Council is really encouraging for people setting up a business in this city. And for this year, they run this grant program. If I want to open my business in Adelaide, they can grant me up to $30,000 and use the under-utilized public building here. Surely it has terms and conditions. That number may only cover no more than 50% of the total cost, and there are common rules that we have to follow. But hey, it’s tempting, isn’t it? And it can also help them to grow a sustainable economy and optimize the unused land.

One of my Indonesian fellows, mba Rizna, the owner of @bakpiapia from Yogyakarta has applied for this grant, had a meeting with their representative, and I really hope everything goes well, so we can observe more about the opportunity provided. The City Council told her that if this program succeeds, they plan to make it an annual program, yeay! \o/

For Bandung? Our mayor has launched the “Kredit Melati” for the SMEs. It is also a good sign of his will. Just hope it will persist and grow to help our society starting up a business.

And hey hey hey, wait! I just remember that we also have that “Little Bandung” store program. How about to make it in Adelaide? I guess I should talk with kang Emil after this. G to G must be a lot easier (?), moreover for this good partnership. Another “Little Bandung” store in South Australia, how cool is that? 😀

c. Sustainable City Incentives Scheme

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Solar PV is everywhere >,<

This one is what I’m really craving for, aaaakkk…!! ~~\o/ The City Council is really aware of environmental issues. They provide funding for residents, business, schools, community, and organizations that want to help to reduce carbon emission, conserve energy, water, and natural resources! D*mn cool!!

The incentives scheme can provide up to $5,000 for us installing solar PV, or energy storage, electric vehicle charging controller, building energy efficiency upgrade, changing out quartz halogen to LED, solar hot water system, rain water tanks, etc. THAT-JUST-COOL!

I’m not sure if it is possible to be implemented in Bandung, or even in any city in Indonesia. But yea… we can learn from this :’)

People-Planet-Profit. That’s all connected to make sustainable system.

d. The City Adelaide Prize

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around the city, we can see many design installations side by side with the heritage buildings

The Adelaide City Prize is an annual prize to encourage people to propose and nominate projects that activate and enliven the city. The projects can be of any scale and may include buildings, public art installations, landscape works and temporary contributions to public space that actively engage the community and enhance the city’s public spaces.

I think the keywords are “brainstorm ideas for urban design”. And Bandung? With our mayor who comes from architectural engineering background? It is more than just possible! X) We had this in the latest “Babakan Siliwangi Design Prize”. And maybe  we can develop more in wider cover range ^_^

The more livable a city, the more dynamic the sectors within.

 

Whuff! Even only from the City Council, I already write this long >,< Okay.. just 2 more for the rest of this part…

 

2. City of Prospect

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the bus that pick us up to the City of Prospect library

In brief, my first impression of this is… it’s like BCCF! (Bandung Creative City Forum), even though it’s not really similar. The City Prospect has established more than one century! It is also area based. There are some acres allocated to be part of the community. They build their own infrastructure, and the development covers several aspects of economy, technology, and social. The similarity comes from the idea that they help the local government to achieve their missions, related to city improvement, people involvement, (hobby based) community engagement, kind of that sort. Then I think, aha! We already have this. And I feel more grateful because in Bandung, we have a potential strength that not all cities in the world have; we are dominated by youth &/ productive-aged people. (And fyi, our population is twice as many as in Adelaide).

Collaborations across sectors are opened widely. And in Bandung, we are… people who love to collaborate =)

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City of Prospect Digital Hub. Interestingly, the word “PROSPECT” is ended by “CT”

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with Matt Grant, the director of business and economic development of City of Prospect, who said that he has visited some co-working spaces in Bandung and met Yohan Totting, one friend of mine, too (Uwh yeah Yohan, who doesn’t know you? :)))

 

3. SASS Place

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Carly, the founding director

I have ever mentioned it in my Facebook post, but I want to re-write about this place. This is a co-working space which also became my exploration in making paper/policy brief in Flinders University, one that I presented in the symposium, observe the possibility how if we adopt the concept for women in SMMEs in Indonesia, to optimize their contribution in the country’s economy.

For those who not yet have an idea what kind of place it is, here is my brief explanation: SASS Place is a co-working space located in the city of Adelaide, with their tagline; A Hub For Female Change Makers. Sooo interesting! Why? In fact, I’m also interested in making a co-working space, but I’ve never thought that women could be the specific target market. During the visit, we shared a lot with the founder, including what I know about how it is going in Indonesia. Emerging business model which is still struggling to survive, and so does in Australia. But owh, really… the idea has attracted me. Women have special needs and concerns. In SASS, they even provide child care and space for breast feeding so that women who have kids or in pregnancy could feel accommodated. Women should support other women. And by that, their husbands (&/families) are also feel safer, because they know that their partners are working in a “less man” area :B

Women who are renting spaces here come from various industries. Then I wonder.. how if we adopt it in Indonesia? Who’s with me? 😀 (spoiler: some of institutions in Australia interested to be the donor)

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the child-care space in the 1st level

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space in level 2

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glance of the main place

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one of the dedicated rooms

A women only co-working space. What an exciting idea. But along the process, I become consider about the current situation. There is also a chance to implement the gender perspective in the existing co-working spaces. Instead of making a new one, we can also persuade private sectors who already run the (mix) co-working spaces to make their spaces women friendly. This is in their own business interest as with the increasing number of women entrepreneurs in Indonesia, such spaces can become more profitable.

To point this objective, my group, made a recommendation to The Ministry of Women Empowerment and Child Protection in Indonesia. They can play a vital role in establishing guidelines for the private sectors on what constitutes a women friendly work space. And actually they can also help the women entrepreneurs through their channels for funding, marketing, and other supports. What do you think? 😀

Whuff! There are still visits I want to share. But I think it is enough for this time. I will continue with the next posts. But before I end up this part, don’t forget to leave a comment below. Any ideas and advises are appreciated :*

 

Who wish  you for always having a great day,

 

Hani Rosidaini

 

 

Lets Talk About Power & Electricity! :D

quote-all-power-corrupts-but-we-need-the-electricity-anonymous-287909 Hi, Hani is back! *grinning*

So much stories, so little time. I really wish I could have all the time in the world, (and the good mood for writing as well, lol). Fyi, I do even have several blogs for different purposes, but none of them is updated in recent months. *grinning wider*

As a person who really love to share stories, everytime I meet or have a good conversation with people and get something new from them, I always become very excited to reshare it with others. Usually they were my family or close friends, but sometimes I find no one fits into my stories, then I choose to write it on my blog, expect nothing but to deliver my excitement, besides as a reminder for myself in the future. Well, just like now. My hands soo itchy already to grab my laptop and start writing. But you know what? It’s not always that easy to jot down in words, it like a hard nut to crack. But.. instead of posting nothing, I found a better idea; How if I just post the chat here? Ha ha ha.. I dont have to edit, so that you can read the whole things that we discussed about. Clever, eh? ;)) (not sure if it’s clever or lazy)

This time I was talking about electrical generator, hydro power, and solar pv system with a buddy (hello,, Mr. Ryan Triadhitama :p). He’s a power engineer who just resigned from Toshiba Japan after worked there for about 3.5 years. He just come home for good, prepare his study to pursue the master degree in the UK, focused on… future power network? smart grid? smart power generation? yea, kind of that sort ^^ I need his insights for my upcoming projects, so here are our chats…

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Need translation? Please do wait until tomorrow, xixixi

Then ha! I remembered I ever read about that enefarm: http://panasonic.co.jp/ap.FC/en_doc03_00.html The advertisement had started from 2008. The cost is quite high, but he told that the outcome is also the same, unstable. Nya nyaa X3

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And about solar pv system: (already in English)

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Urghhh.. I’m suddenly covered with the glorious of curiousity. I really want to learn how those all work X)) And since I got a business partner who also associated with Japan company, actually it should be delicate, ehe ehe ehe.. Japan wish to have role model in here, in Indonesia, and by that, we also can learn from them and make the improvement after all. Hope anything goes well~

jua;

schematic diagram for pv in house, the electricity incl. for sale

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not for sale, but we need the battery

So, any of you who also interested in this subject? Lets discuss more! I also want to hear your stories 😀 And for aa Ryan, mmm… wish you nothing but good luck for anything you planned. Please surprise us, just like the electromagnetic shockwave. *droll*

Bandung, H+4 Iedl Fitr

under the blanket, dealing with my fever

PS: I made this writing to encourage you, who has greater things worth to share, but never eager to write. There’s no better time to start than today. And while blogging is a challenge that I believe fits into me at this exact moment in time, you may find greater opportunity in sharing to sophisticated audiences. But either way, I’d love to have you join me in some ways v(^^)

Father

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I’m kind of that girl, who has her father as her no.1 man on this planet. Eventho we rarely talking, because we’r also not that so expressive to state our feelings. He often keeps silent, yet I know he’s always watching me. Never force something, coz he knows that I’ll always have my own expectation. Mother phoned me, but I know it was my father who really wanna do it and asked her to do so. He’s the one who would be happier when I’m happy, and feel broken when I’m sad.

This Ramadhan brings those memories.. when he carried me on his back while going home from the mosque after i’tikaf. What old times.

Nothing as big as my love for you, dad. All I wanna do is to make you feel proud of me. 💞❤️💖 #FeelingEmosyenel

Update:

I can’t stop telling people that I love my dad so much. But weirdo, I can’t tell him directly so often instead. Maybe you’re also aware when you see my this blog’s title: Daddy’s Little Warrior. I dedicated to him. Well.. since I was a kid I realize that I wasn’t born a princess, and my parents never raised me to be one. Instead, they raised me to be “a warrior”, a person who can survive in any condition of life, and I’m thankful for that.

If only you know my father very well, we are so much alike, maybe not apparent physically, but in basic character and attitudes (unfortunately including all the bad habits). I always see him as a mirror, I see myself in him, and he’s in me, even for little things. When I am confused analyzing myself, I usually end up finding the answer in him, I almost always act, react, and think exactly like him. I’m just his other version. I know how he works so hard for his family and never complains to surrender his life to his loved ones. So this time, all I can say is.. “so will I, dad”. I’ll be ashamed if I give up on life just by remember you. Even when everything seems bleeding and depressing. I promise that I will always be.. your little warrior. *cross finger* #KeepSurvivingForDad #ThugLife

How to Deal With Difficult Conversation

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Have you ever feel stuck in a conversation, while you still want to keep on talking, discussing something, but anything gets harder to handle and just be worse instead? I have a lot, either with “friend”, colleagues, or family. The problem with “friend”, sometimes you just want to continue the hard times because you still want to be connected, you keep on trying hoping it could attract good reactions and approach with nice impression. But your partner might not reciprocate by as you wish. And it’s hard, I know. I know exactly so I can feel you xP

With colleagues, the factors could be varied. Even sometimes for tiny things. But for this case, I didnt allowed feelings involved, so it safe. With family, owh, it’s even harder. I have brother and mother who didnt always agree with me, and yea, we argued. (My father? Well, you dont have to worry about him. I always be his little princess. And since he usually prefer to stay quiet, I perceive that he’s always on my side. My #1 man on this planet).

So,

I faced many difficult conversations with humans. Eventho I declared myself as an extrovert, love to meet people, read a lot, and feel that I never limit and create boundary on specified topics. But the difficulty is also belongs to me. So when there is a psychology people give advices to me about how to deal with it, my curiousity level is on maximum. I often believe on science and on psychology. Not merely because it learned in school, but my tendency is they taking patterns. I’m sure every single thing in this galaxy has a pattern. People need time and consistency to catch and map it, something that not everyone could afford. (if my time is really unlimited, perhaps i want to learn much more than I did, urgh).

Here are the advices that I got:

1) First, we need to calm. If we Hulk Out, it’s little more than a screaming match and nothing gets accomplished.

2) Dont make statements. Ask questions. The other person will interpret it as a veiled form of fighting back.

3) Treat them like a child. No, it doesnt mean be condescending. But we wouldn’t try to rationalize with a screaming child. And we wouldn’t get angry with them for yelling.

4) Ask “what would you like me to do?”

5) Speak slowly. Anything that slows the situation down is good for us.

6) Start sentences with “I’d like…” not “You are…”

7) Let them have the last word. Needing to have the last word is like quitting at mile 26 of the marathon. We’ve done everything right up until now. Do not let our ego screw up everything at the last minute.

Those are the things that we (me and you all) can try. Good communicator has always good position in society.

Last but not least, there is one thing that I wish I could posses: sense of humour. Uh yeah, it such an expensive gift. Everytime I see it on a man, I always think perhaps it was innate. But really, be a humorous is such a bless for those who use it well. Let me know if there is people who sell it, hahaha…

By now, after all this time, would you have a good conversation with me? :3

Lean In – Sheryl Sandberg (Part 1)

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I was considering about which book I should read first, Steve Jobs autobiography or this Sheryl Sandberg’s, then my choice goes to this one, because its page aint even reach 31% of the competitor, haha… 217 over 716.

Actually I just read the foreword of this “Lean In”, but be in love in an instant. Sheryl is such a role model for any women who want to pursue career in technology industry, moreover in this global world. She is one of the men behind Google’s success, started from it was still a startup company in early 2000, and how she through many barriers to reach the top (until become the COO of Facebook) is something that could encourage and empower women, even when we have a family and responsible to our child. I like the part when she said “I do not believe that there is one definition of success or happiness. Not all women want career, not all women want children. Not all women want both”. And it is really true. I saw many of my married women friends are fully being a housewifes, not passionate to make a career, yet they’re (seem) happy. But for women who have potential and high expectations of making goals in life, and also ambitious to make progress for the better world, take a role in top position could give us strong and powerful voice to speak out about our needs and concerns.

Women face too many complex challenges, not to mention our own internal obstacles. As a moslem, I’m not fully support the feminist manifesto or equality in any aspects, but as an individual (who also want to achieve many things in life), by reignite the revolution, I hope more people will understand about our desire, so that could help us to ease the burden that we-have-manage-all-aspects-at-home-while-other-activities-are-only-choices.

I hope my future husband read this book (hehe..) and become please to share more things, include to do more at home (be a real partner) then we can compromise the gap, while support each other, so we can be not only happy as a family, but also happy as a person 🙂

Read all my books review here >>

NB: Hey, i just knew something! If we want to make a comment in reading progress of Goodreads, we’re just allowed to write in no more than 420 characters! While when I’m just read 10 first pages of a book, I can even review (as you see above) multiple times of the limit. So I think post it on blog is a good option.

Anyway… The more I know about Sheryl, the more I adore. From workplace to home, college to world most respected company, anything. And the TIME magazine cover below is one of the most powerful pictures of her, so I print it and use it as a wall poster in my room. What do you think? 😀

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And readers, if you are also a women who lean in, you can join to LeanIn.org , a non-profit organization that Sheryl founded to empower all women to achieve their ambitions. Lets struggling together! *cheers* 😀